I’ve been invited to several college campuses to talk about the study abroad experiences of friends in my book, The Single Girl’s Guide to Meeting European Men. Each time, girls tell me that they feel like they have to act a particular way to attract the men they desire. Not so, darlings! Putting on a false persona to try and please any man is a good way to sell yourself short, and keep from finding the right man.
Every Monday for the past month, I’ve featured an appealing bachelor. I love them all, but each one is markedly different…right down to his preferences in women. Jencen, the chef, is most attracted to a girl when she is all done up, perfume included. Billy, the baseball player, likes a woman best when she rolls out of bed with no makeup. Austin, our badass businessman, is taken by ladies who are genuinely nice, even to people they don’t like. Rusty, the Olympic recruitment coach, is attracted to a girl with loads of confidence. He finds it hot when she can laugh out loud at something she finds funny even if no one else gets the joke.
When Billy is smitten with a girl, he’s in no rush to push the physical realm, whereas Rusty doesn’t mind going full force… You wouldn’t want to wear a shoe on a long trip that doesn’t fit your foot, so why work hard to win a man who doesn’t fit you? The right relationship is for the long-haul.