Katherine Chloé Cahoon

For all you ladies who have loved Grant – the businessman I featured last week who unwinds as a stand-up comic – he’s back again by popular demand. Before we get into the interview, I just want to say I enjoy hearing from all you girls and reading your relationship questions. I figure it’s best to go straight to the male source for answers, so like last week, today’s dating dilemmas come from you.

How to decipher a guy’s intentions? How can a girl tell if a guy wants a relationship with her, or just wants to use her physically?

Grant: The real question is, Does he make her a part of his life or a part of his night? If the guy reaches out to her on a regular basis, then he’s interested in having a relationship. Whereas, if he’s just there for her when it’s time to get physical, then he’s not.

What are the dating roles? Women hear a lot about equality of the sexes and wonder if that means they’re expected to pay on dates some of the times.

Grant: A girl should never feel like she has to pay. Men like to spoil women, but they also like to know that their efforts are appreciated and the women understand their bank accounts aren’t infinite. If a girl offers to pay and the guy says no, never argue. There comes a point in the relationship where the guy wants to know that the girl cares and is invested, so she might try planning something special. But more important than paying, is the planning because that shows her man that she put thought into the relationship.

What’s a major turnoff? What’s something that kills a relationship?

Grant: Show your partner that you’re having a good time. Don’t put up hoops for him to jump through. He’ll jump through them anyway.