After snapchatting (katherinechloe) about my extreme excitement for Valentine’s Day and my new dress, I received questions about who made it. The answer is Dress the Population. It’s my new favorite for a fancy event.
On the magical night when I wore this gown, Tom took me to Pacific Northwest Ballet’s performance of Jean-Christophe Maillot’s “Romeo et Juliette.” It was captivating from beginning to end. The dancing was incredible, but what moved me most was the passion. I couldn’t have asked for a more romantic Valentine.
Not long after I saw the ballet, I received an email from a reader asking for advice on a dating dilemma. She was really into a guy she had gone out with, but felt like she had to be coy and play by an arbitrary set of rules—to say exactly what he wanted to hear, to act in a way that would impress his friends, to text him back only after a respectable time, to act interested enough but not too interested, to unobtrusively let him know that he had competition from others guys who liked her.
The list of rules went on and on until my head was spinning. I wanted to shout, “Rip them all up.” If you want to tell him you really like him, go for it. If you want to tell his friends that you really like him, why not? If you feel the urge to text him even if he hasn’t just texted you, get that phone out. If, like Romeo and Juliet, your body comes alive the moment his lips touch yours, don’t hide that. The same goes for the guy. Would you like him to play games with you? I wouldn’t.
The only rules that I follow in a relationship are to be kind, genuine, and true to my beliefs. No one can tell you exactly how to act genuine, because following someone else’s agenda would be the opposite of that.